First: we are sorry. Whatever brought you to this page, you are likely exhausted, grieving, and suddenly responsible for things no one ever explained to you. Take a breath. Almost nothing legal has to happen today. But a handful of things should happen soon, and a few deadlines are real. This page walks you through what actually needs doing, in order, in plain English — and what can safely wait.
The first days: what actually needs to happen now
In the first days, your jobs are practical, not legal. Obtain certified copies of the death certificate — you will need multiple copies for banks, insurers, and the court. Locate the original will, if there is one; check the home, a safe, and any lawyer your parent used. Secure the house and any valuables, forward the mail, and keep paying only what protects property, like homeowner's insurance. Do not distribute money, empty accounts, or start giving away belongings — even with good intentions, that can create personal liability later. Nothing about court has to happen this week. The estate can wait a few days while your family grieves; the errors people regret are the rushed ones.
How probate works in New York, step by step
If your parent left a will, it must be filed with the Surrogate's Court in the county where they lived — for example, Kings County at 2 Johnson Street in Brooklyn, or Queens County at 88-11 Sutphin Blvd. in Jamaica. The named executor petitions the court to admit the will and issue letters testamentary, the document banks require before anyone can act. Relatives who would have inherited without the will must be notified and given a chance to object. Filing fees are set by estate size under SCPA 2402, ranging from $45 for the smallest estates to $1,250 for estates of $500,000 or more. Once letters issue, the executor collects assets, pays valid debts, and eventually distributes what remains under the will.
If there is no will: the administration path
No will does not mean no process — it means a parallel one called administration. Instead of an executor, the court appoints an administrator, usually the closest relative, who receives letters of administration and does essentially the same job. Who inherits is decided by New York's intestacy statute rather than your parent's wishes: a surviving spouse and children split the estate by formula, and if there is no spouse, children share equally. Administration can get complicated when relatives disagree over who should serve, when heirs are hard to locate, or when someone entitled to inherit is a minor. The filing fee schedule is the same as probate. If your parent died without a will, start by identifying every legal heir — the court will require it.
Being the executor: duties, and yes, personal liability
If you were named executor, understand this early: you are a fiduciary, personally responsible for handling other people's money correctly. You must gather and safeguard assets, keep estate funds separate from your own, pay legitimate debts in the right order, file tax returns, keep records of every transaction, and treat all beneficiaries impartially — including relatives you do not get along with. Executors who distribute money too early, ignore creditors, or fail to file taxes can be held personally liable for the shortfall. The good news: you are allowed to hire professionals, and reasonable attorney's fees are paid from the estate, not your pocket. You are also entitled to statutory commissions for your work.
Deadlines and taxes you cannot ignore
Most estate tasks are flexible; a few are not. If the estate is large enough to owe federal estate tax, the federal estate tax return is generally due nine months after death — and for 2026 deaths, the federal exemption is $15,000,000 per person. New York has its own estate tax with a 2026 exclusion of $7,350,000, and a sharp cliff: if the New York taxable estate exceeds 105% of the exclusion — $7,717,500 — the entire estate becomes taxable, not just the excess. Your parent's final income tax return is still due on the normal schedule, and the estate itself may need income tax returns. If any number in this paragraph might apply to your family, involve a professional well before month nine.
The house, the debts, and what not to touch
The house is usually the estate's biggest asset and its biggest source of family friction. Until the court issues letters, no one has authority to sell it — but someone should secure it, maintain insurance, and keep the mortgage and property taxes from going into default. Once appointed, the executor can typically sell the house or, if the will and beneficiaries allow, transfer it to family. Debts are paid from estate assets in a legally set order; children do not inherit a parent's debts personally, and you should be skeptical of collectors who imply otherwise. Do not pay your parent's credit cards from your own money, and do not let anyone start removing property from the house — inventory first, distribute later.
What to do in the first 72 hours after losing a parent — a New York executor's checklist
You do not need to solve the estate this week. These steps protect the estate — and you — while the legal process gets organized.
- The one most people forget
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